Many people are alone for the holidays due to a recent break-up or divorce… You’re not alone. I’m Steve Peck, host of Divorce Source Radio, and I’m going to be alone for New Years Eve for the first time in many years myself this New Year’s Eve.
So if you find yourself alone, please join me for our New Years Eve “live” podcast on BlogTalk tadio beginning at 11:00pm Monday January 31st to 1:00am EST. Click: http://www.blogtalkradio.com/divorcesourceradio/2013/01/01/alone-for-new-years-celebrate-here-with-steve to listen in at 11:00pm EST.
You can join the show by calling in, and we’ll have special guests. So bring a bottle of wine, champagne, beer or your favorite beverage, and let’s NOT be alone, let’s be together and wish each other a very happy New Year. I hope to see you here.
Happy New Year from Single Again! Now What?! Lesley is in Ohio for Christmas break with her son and Joanie and Steve are holding court in this episode.
As Steve continues his path of being recently single, he finds himself asking many questions, such as, Why do relationships break up so quickly? Why don’t we try harder to honor our vows and Why do we seem to live in a throw away society when it comes to the ones we once loved?
Steve references the movie he recently saw titled “Hope Springs“. The movie tells the story of a middle-aged couple attending an intense, week-long counseling session to work on their relationship after thirty years of marriage. Communication is the key to staying in healthy relationship, and Steve wonders how we can believe what any wife, husband or lover says when months or years later, they seem to forget their vows.
We’d love to hear your thoughts, write us at: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com or sound off on our Facebook Page at: www.Facebook.com/SingleAgainNowWhat.
In this episode of The Intelligent Divorce with Mark Banschick, M.D., we discuss needy and clingy personality types. Have you been with this type of person or was it you that displayed these traits?
Neediness Pushes People Away: When the relationship is no longer in the “whirlwind romantic” stage, you may feel the need to cling too much in order to maintain what you had. “What’s wrong?” “I feel like you are not there.” Anxiety occurs because you sense a change, but you may be responding to something completely normal. It’s a burden to have to deal with a clingy lover. “Everything is fine.” Will you just stop it?” The irony is that as you push your concerns forward, you partner may just decide it is too much to deal with.
And if you’re the clingy person and you are involved with a narcissist, this can turn explosive. There is no shame to admit that you are too clingy. And there are usually good reasons why you became that way; like anxieties in early childhood. Good relationships are worth a lot, so if you’ve got a tendency to be too needy, do something about it. Work on overcoming the wounds of the past, and make better relationships in the future.
While it’s fine to test the temperature of a relationship, be aware that your neediness may undermine a stable bond between you and your partner. And, if you are that partner, you may want to listen to this show and have some empathy. There’s a lot that can be done to keep your love fresh, with the help of counseling. This episode will help you learn more about needy and clingy people.
For more on Dr. Mark Banschick, visit: www.TheIntelligentDivorce.com.
Many people transitioning through a divorce want to distance themselves from the other party as quickly as possible and this can result in poor, and ultimately expensive, mistakes. Prematurely paying off joint credit cards, selling personal property, and buying or selling real estate are some examples that require extreme caution prior to the final settlement.
Buying a new home is a common first step to cleanse a person of the divorce experience. They want to leave the marital home and strike out on their own, make a fresh start and solidify their independence. What better way to express their new situation than to create an oasis in the form of a new home.
Divorce Real Estate Specialist, Joan Rogliano joins us to discuss the up and downside of real estate during divorce. Divorce Consultant, Deborah Moskovitch joins the show as well adding her expert opinion. If you are going through the process of divorce and own real estate, this is a “must hear” show.
Joanie Lesley & Steve are back with their final show before Christmas and the conversation picks up where it left off last week, with being single again and the journey of on-line dating after divorce.
Steve shares his experience with someone he has recently met on eHarmony and Joanie shares her personal experiences with the dating site as well. Both of the girls are providing advice to Steve on what to look for and watch out for during this adventure.
Tis the season to be sick, and Lesley and Steve share their germ phobia and love for Pruell. Lesley has some funny stories of how her son cleans up after school and her plans to visit family in Ohio.
From all of us at Single Again! Now What? and Divorce Source Radio, we wish you a happy and healthy holiday season. While Lesley is in Ohio next week, Joanie and Steve will be back on the air with another pre new year and end of the world show.
Be sure to check out our Facebook page for more information on our show and hosts at www.Facebook.com/SingleAgainNowWhat.
What if you could change the negative thoughts and behaviors that have been detrimental to healthy relationships in the past? Have you ever had feelings of being blamed, unappreciated, rejected or even un-loved in a past or current relationship? Imagine what would happen if you were able to “rewire” your brain and eliminate your negative feelings and replace them with positive feelings that make you feel accepted, appreciated valued, loved and successful.
On this episode of The Smart Divorce, recorded at The Family Support Expo in Toronto, co-founder of NEXT Integrative Mind Sciences, David Folk joins us to discuss the potential to changing our brain and transform relationships. (Neuroplasticity)
David’s NEXT program guides students through a series of exercises that teach you to utilize your brain’s own natural plasticity by creating new and lasting patterns of behavior. Armed with new abilities for emotional behavioral regulation, graduates of the couples and families program consistently report radical improvements to their relationships compared to when they began the program.
Learn how developments in neuroscience can benefit your life in this exciting program. For more information on David Folk and the NEXT program, visit: www.The NextProgram.com.
One of the biggest fears post-divorce are finances. Trusting yourself to make financial choices is a big issue, especially when it comes to your divorce settlement. Our guest, Dr. Deborah Nixon, helps us to understand what we need to do. Dr. Nixon is an entrepreneur, professor, executive, consultant, and community volunteer; she has identified a common need in today’s cautious working environment for trusting professional relationships. Economic instability has undercut our readiness to trust one another – and this is especially hard in divorce. We’re gong to relate this all to your post-divorce life.
Dr. Nixon helps us understand the importance of building and maintaining trust in ourselves when making financial decisions – especially when it’s post-divorce, and the worry is “what about my future?” She has developed the MyMoneyMindset and Trust Intelligence Program and shares her work, to help us with financial decision-making. We discuss the intangibles of trust, reputation and integrity to make them tangible and practical.
To understand how these goals are met in reasonable manner we explore:
- Defining Moments as a pivot point for deeper understanding of financial decision-making
- How assessments, coaching and consulting have helped clients learn to take charge of their money while helping professionals learn what their clients need from them.
- Helping to develop Financial Wellness
- The 10 Minute Survey
- The importance of feeling strong so that you can manage your money
My Money Mindset will help you make better and more informed decisions about your money. Tackle those hard issues. A raise, the family budget, a financial plan, your relationship with your financial professional. Don’t you owe it to yourself! Isn’t your peace of mind worth it? This interview will surely help you understand what trust means, trust breaches and trust repair. Fascinating stuff.
To find out more, contact Dr. Nixon at Deborah@mymoneymindset.com, or call 416-986-7049
Happy Holidays from the Single Again! Now What? posse!
On this episode, Joanie, Lesley and Steve talk about custody issues divorced couples face during the holidays. Lesley’s ex is choosing to be out of state and away from his son for Christmas in order to spend time with a new love interest. Steve and Joanie have strong feelings about this, but Lesley is taking the high road and doing what’s in the best interest of her son.
This is the first show recorded from the new DSR studio, as Steve has recently moved and took the studio with him. Since Steve left everything to his wife after their divorce three years ago and has been living in a furnished place since, this entailed buying EVERYTHING new for the new place, an exhausting and expensive task that many find themselves doing after leaving a marriage and starting over.
The conversation turns to e-Dating services and the trio share their experiences with this. Joanie has been there, done that, Steve is just checking it out, and Lesley is far too busy to consider it at this time. So can true love really be found on-line? Stay tuned.
Finally, the gang talk about how the kids of someone you’re dating can drive a wedge between your relationship. So what would you do if someone you were dating had kids that were rude and disrespectful of you? The girls pitch in with their thoughts.
Don’t forget to check out our Single Again! Now What? Facebook page for more on the show and hosts at: www.Facebook.com/SingleAgainNowWhat.
The holidays bring stress, which sometimes leads to overindulging. This year, learn to approach the the season with mindfulness. Join Nicole Cormier, RD, LDN, Registered Dietitian and local food enthusiast, Joins Joanie, Lesley & Steve to discuss ways to have a healthier holiday season.
Nicole Cormier helps busy people find balance in their over-worked, over-stressed lives. Delicious Living Nutrition is dedicated to inspire each client to manage their energy and life in a way which creates positive relationships with food. My approach is simple: eating real, whole, delicious foods that are exciting. You can avoid overeating during the holiday season, and Nicole shows you how.
In this program you will learn to:
- Achieve optimal health
- Decrease your risk of cancer, heart disease, and diabetes
- Increase your energy level
- Improve your quality of life and well-being
- Decrease your medications
For more on Nicole Cormier, visit: www.DiliciousLivingNutrition.com.
The holidays can be a challenging time for families going through divorce. We have these images of perfect family holidays, yet your own family is coping with a situation that is anything but perfect. In this program, psychologist, Dr. Larry Friedberg, provides advice to help get you through the holidays in this classic DSR broadcast titled, Alone for the Holidays.
This Program Covers:
- Dealing with ALL holidays including: Christmas, Hanukkah , Easter, Birthdays, Bar/Bat Mitzvahs, Graduations
- How to deal with your feelings and emotions during this trying time
- Understanding issues your children may be dealing with during the holiday season
- Dividing parenting time between you and your ex
- Tips for holiday parties and gatherings to ease the stress
- Is it proper to begin dating around the holidays
For more on Dr. Larry Friedberg, visit: www.DrLarryFriedberg.com