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Jan
09

Personality Disorders and Affairs

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David Feder returns with another episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio to discuss personality disorders and affairs.

Many people suffer some form of personality disorder whether it be Borderline Personality or Narcissistic Disorder, Bipolar, or one of the many other types of mental illnesses that affect an individual’s ability to form healthy relationships.mental-illness

Some of these illnesses can even be the direct cause of a partner straying and becoming unfaithful.  David explains how mental illness might play out during an affair and provides advice for the hurt partner dealing with the fallout.

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Nov
03

Rebuild Your Relationship After an Affair

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FederAlbumDavid Feder returns with Rebuild Your Relationship After an Affair and shares advice on getting over an affair.

David speaks to the need for full disclosure by the “affair partner” including the need for transparency in an effort to regain trust in the “hurt partner”.

For more on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.  For more prograams related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.

 

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Aug
10

Telling On The The Person Having an Affair

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FederAlbumAffair expert David Feder answers a listener question regarding whether to call the spouse of the person your partner is having an affair with on this episode of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio.

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Jun
17

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair

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FederAlbumAffair expert, David Feder, discusses how to rebuild trust after an affair has occured on this episode of The Anatomy of an Affair on Divorce Source Radio.

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Feb
21

Lessons Learned From Having an Affair

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FederAlbumOn this episode of The Anatomy of An Affair with David Feder we are joined with a client who has had more than one affair, as well as several one night stands.

Conflict“Mary” has learned from her experiences and shares her story and we have the opportunity to learn from her experiences.  Mary is an example of a person who has worked hard and faced her challenges.

Many people continue to buy into the belief, “once a cheater always a cheater” and this is a reason why many betrayed partners continue to ask themselves whether they will ever be able to trust their partner again?  There are people who will remain untrustworthy but others are willing to learn from their mistakes and commit to living a more wholesome life and make amends for hurting their partner.  People can change and this segment is about illustrating that point.

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Dec
11

Should I End My Affair?

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DSRwithSP_AlbumDavid Feder returns with The Anatomy of An Affair and discusses the thought process of whether you should end an affair and return to your partner.

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David Feder

On the next episode, David is bringing on one of his clients to share her affair experience.

For more information on David Feder, visit: http://www.mylifeafteranaffair.com

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Oct
06

Affairs – Your Heart Can’t be Two Places at The Same Time

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DSRwithSP_AlbumIn episode 11 of The Anatomy of an Affair, David Feder discusses why your heart can’t be two places at the same time during an affair.

Comparing your partner to the affair partner is an unfair comparison that will either create more confusion for you or keep you stuck.  You will not discover why you are where you are.  Your heart cannot be in two places at the same time and your partner will almost always come up wanting in any comparison test.  Instead it will be more helpful if instead of directing blame onto your spouse, you focus on yourself and become more aware of your beliefs, values and needs.

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David Feder

The way a person feels when in an affair will almost always trump feelings had in a long-term relationship.  An affair is a fantasy built on a foundation of secrecy, exclusive focus and excitement.  Absent are the financial and childcare responsibilities that often distract committed partners from one another and robs the committed relationship of passion.  Hence, the affair will often appear more exciting and leave participating partners thinking that they finally met someone who truly understands.  But, do they?

For more information on David Feder, visit: http://www.mylifeafteranaffair.com

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Apr
19

Have A Recovery Plan After An Affair

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DSRwithSP_AlbumDavid Feder returns with episode #10 of The Anatomy of An Affair on Divorce Source Radio.

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In this show, David helps those who have experienced an affair find the missing like in the recovery process.

Topics include:

  • What people need in recovery after an affair
  • Dealing with the trauma and pain
  • Having a plan for therapy
  • Keeping hope alive after an affair
  • Regaining trust after an affair

Listener note: This is Part 10 of this series, and if you have found this program through our archive directory, iTunes or Stitcher Radio, it is advised you begin with program 1 and follow the podcasts in their original order.

For more information on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.  For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.  Send any questions or comments you might have to DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com.

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Feb
22

Rebuilding Trust After an Affair

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DSRwithSP_AlbumEpisode #9 of The Anatomy of an Affair with Steve Peck and David Feder is about how couples can continue the process of rebuilding trust after an affair when they are faced with a particular challenge such as a business conference, or a business trip.

building-trust-concept-370x229In the example discussed, David talks about a situation where the spouse who had an affair has to attend a 3-day business conference where the “affair” partner will be present.  Steve Peck and David Feder have an interesting and dynamic discussion about how a couple can go about planning for the conference in such a way that addresses the needs of the hurt partner and the participating partner.

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David Feder

David Feder cites Tessa Bonhomme (former player on Canada’s Women’s National Hockey Team) who said, “For me it’s being a part of something bigger than yourself”.  David says Tessa Bonhomme’s quote applies to relationships and in particular to rebuilding trust after a betrayal.  Listen in to learn how.

For more information on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.  For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.  Send any questions or comments you might have to DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com.

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Jan
28

The Other Man or Woman in an Affair

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SteveOnDSRalbum4In episode #8 of The Anatomy of an Affair with David Feder, we take a look at the “other” man or woman who became involved with your partner.

How could another woman or man become involved with someone who was a relationship with someone else who had potentially been married for years and with children? 

affair_2_1This show helps us to better understand what the person who was involved in the affair and potentially breaking apart a family was thinking.  How could they knowingly become involved in this situation?  Perhaps they were being misled by the person in the relationship telling them their marriage really wasn’t working and that they were planning on getting divorced. 

And what if you’re having an affair and decide to divorce and be with your affair partner only to discover that months or a few years later the person you left your family for decides they no longer want to be with you?  And if someone entered into an affair with you what are the chances that they might leave you for yet another affair?

For more information on David Feder, visit: www.MyLifeAfterAnAffair.com.  For more programs related to divorce and life after divorce, visit: www.DivorceSourceRadio.com.  Send any questions or comments you might have to DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com.

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