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On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest is Denise Whitehead, a lawyer with a Ph.D. in Family Relations & Human Development. She combines her legal and social science backgrounds and shares her important research on socio-legal practice and policy issues related to separation and divorce that affect all members of the family system – mothers, fathers and children.
Dr. Whitehead discusses her dissertation research that involved in-depth interviews with young adults who spent time in shared custody as children and examined their perspectives on transitions, relationships and fairness. The information is helpful on so many levels – but most importantly looks at what children really want, the outcomes and impact.
Topics in this program include:
- How shared custody is influencing parent child relationships
- Fairness in decision making
- What children want in a custody arrangement
- The importance of quality time with children
- Who “owns the time”
- ‘Managing-up:’ Young adult children who experienced shared custody reflect on their efforts to make family relations work
- Custodial decision-making and fairness: Young adults who lived in shared custody give their ‘expert’ opinions
- And so much more…….
This is a must listen show if you are thinking of, working through or implementing your parenting plan. Dr. Whitehead provides practical and creative thinking about parenting and the relationship with your children.
On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest Stephen Rosenfield http://familysupportexpo.com and http://rosenfieldmediation.com is paying it forward. Stephen is using his work as a Mediator and making a difference – with his mediation practice and the launch of The Family Support Expo in Toronto, Canada on October 20/21, 2012.
Whether it is a medical health issue, a mental health issue or a transitional issue, these considerations are often stigmatized within society. We have learned to hide our problems to avoid rejection and ridicule. But concealing our problems only makes them worse. Nobody is perfect, and everyone experiences challenges from time to time. You may not be struggling with one of these issues, but you definitely know someone who is.
If you’re going through a separation or divorce, you are not alone. 40% – 50% (statistics vary depending on where you live) of couples are just like you. Separation and divorce could be the largest or second largest expense in your lifetime. Parents rarely do well if their children struggle, and children rarely do well if their parents struggle. There are many new considerations and circumstances and we appreciate that you need resolution on all fronts.
Topics in this program include:
• The benefits of The Family Support Expo – the exhibitors, speakers, giveaways and more.
• The $24,000 dilemma.
• Considerations to developing a parenting plan when your child has ADHD, special needs or mental health issues.
• How depression and mental health affects the family dynamic.
• Elder-care and divorce.
• Helping the world to be a better place.
• How your mediation impacts future generations.
• Going forward fairly in mediation.
This interview covers issues to mediate like you’ve never heard before, and one that should be on your download list!
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Join in on the conversation and hear Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck discuss your steps to finding post divorce happiness post divorce. We recognize that life isn’t always easy being single and on your own. But, it doesn’t have to be filled with loneliness, sadness and boredom. There are ways to build your post divorce happy outlook.
Deborah discusses her trials and tribulations as she shares her healing journey to finding her happy spot, and living life on her terms. My view of myself changed astronomically after my divorce. No longer part of a couple, I felt different, rattling around in my social circle with nothing to ground me in events. I was lost, as my world had been based on couples—it seemed that I had lost my identity.
But I soon realized that life would just pass me by if I identified myself with who I was—as part of a married couple, versus who I could be—a fabulous single woman.
Listen in to find out what you can do too……to feel comfortable in your own skin, and seeking happiness in the right relationship. We explore a lot of ideas you won’t want to miss.
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We welcome back our guest, Mark Baer (http://www.markbaeresq.com/), a family law attorney, mediator, and collaborative law practitioner in Pasadena, California and who has been practicing for twenty years. Mark shares his opinions and views about the family law system, how it can be better and provide more creative ways on getting through divorce. Deborah Moskovitch, Steve Peck and Mark explore a variety of concepts regarding mediation. This program isn’t just a standard outline of mediation, but shakes it up a little in this controversial and lively discussion.
How do you think outside the box in mediation? Mark Baer encourages you to ponder as we discuss:
- The way in which bias impacts family law litigation
- Why “evaluative mediation” is not really mediation, even though most lawyers and judicial officers believe otherwise
- Whether family law attorneys should have higher ethical obligations than other attorneys
- Funding your children’s college/university education when child support isn’t enough or stops
- What money represents
There seems to be a major disconnect between the way the public views mediation and how the attorneys and judicial officers view as mediation. This is a conversation that is steeped in controversy. Tune in and then let us hear your thoughts on our Facebook fan pages…and don’t forget to like us. The Smart Divorce http://www.facebook.com/pages/The-Smart-Divorce/202908933137654 and www.Facebook.com/DivorceSourceRadio
The health of our children, communities and nation depends on strong families. The institute of marriage and family Canada (IMFC) states that the aim of society and government policy should be to protect and support this foundation. How is this accomplished?
Our guest, Dave Quist, Executive Director of the Institute of Marriage and Family Canada (http://www.imfcanada.org/) outlines the many challenges facing families today, and provides ideas for overcoming the obstacles for confronting families in our fast paced society. Mr. Quist has been an active participant in an annual, international meeting of think tanks who collaborate to advance the position that marriage and strong families act as a protector against poverty. This is a energetic conversation brimming with ideas for developing stronger, healthier family relationships.
- Staying connected with the “family dinner”
- Pre-marriage counseling
- The challenges of family financing
- Understanding the “me” generation
- How to make relationships stronger with your children and within your marriage
- Making marriages successful rather than divorce easier
- What co-parents need to understand so that children become positive contributors to society
- The cultural shift of marriage
- And, so much more……
The Institute of Marriage and Family Canada (IMFC) conducts, compiles and presents the latest and most accurate research to ensure that marriage and family-friendly policy are foremost in the minds of Canada’s decision makers.
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You can protect your kids through Divorce Without Dishonor, and our guest, Mike Mastracci tells us how to resolve custody conflicts in divorce. Author and lawyer, Mike Mastracci is a nationally recognized family law attorney and mediator with over 20 years of professional experience. He is the author of STOP Fighting Over the Kids, Resolving Day-to-Day Conflict in Divorce Situations. (To receive a FREE copy of Mike’s book, send your request to: DivorceSourceRadio@gmail.com and the E-book will be emailed to you.)
In addition to his legal, collaborative and mediation skills, Mastracci brings much more to the table: with an insightful, kind and helpful approach. He shares his personal child custody issues and challenges to better serve you in solving your legal, practical, parental, and situational problems.
Mr. Mastracci through his common sense approach provides insight, strategies and an invaluable understanding of Court, costly custody battles. Mastracci encourages divorcing couples to educate themselves in the Collaborative Divorce method whereby they can demonstrate by their words and actions that they love their children more than they may dislike their ex. Mike will frankly tell you that contested divorce and child custody litigation is more often than not a waste of time, money and emotional wear and tear.
Mastracci is committed to preserving parent-child relationships. He maintains the popular family law Blog: www.DivorceWithoutDishonor.com.
Did you know that your brain can help you through divorce in a much smarter, more emotionally balanced way? There is tremendous scientific knowledge about the brain yet the legal system is slow at integrating it.
Our guest, Nathalie Boutet (http://www.basmansmith.com/i3boutet.asp) (http://www.collaborativelawblog.ca/about-nathalie-boutet) explains what we have known for years – that our cognitive abilities diminish when we are experiencing strong emotion. Separating clients are frequently in a state of high emotions stemming from years of unhappiness in their marriage. They are likely to encounter many instances when they will get emotionally triggered during which time their ability to think and reason will be diminished. Yet we demand that separating parents co-parent effectively and work together amicably to resolve complex financial decisions.
Separating families, and especially the children, the innocent victims, suffer tremendously before, during and after the legal separation process.
How can you get through your divorce with the brain in mind? Ms. Boutet answers this question and more as we discuss:
- Some of the causes of divorce and how the brain is affected
- If people are struggling and don’t want to divorce, what can they do?
- What makes a divorce easier/more difficult
- How does brain science intersect with family law?
- What are some of the pitfalls that people fall into– and what happens
This interview will help you understand how to bring in the humanity while divorcing all while being brain friendly. Sounds intriguing doesn’t it…..it’s an conversation you don’t want to miss.
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Understanding what mediation is as a process, and finding the right mediator, are critical elements to developing smart and long lasting parenting and financial agreements that are predicated on informed, thoughtful decision making. A good mediator will discuss what your goals are for the process, what is important to each of you and will help you to craft a plan that addresses those goals and intentions. This is important to understand, as all mediators are not created equal!
Our guest, Cara Raich, (http://www.srmediators.com/mediators/cara-raich-esq/) (http://mediatetrix.wordpress.com/ explores the specifics of mediation in this episode of The Smart Divorce, with Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck. Cara is a mediator and attorney who specializes in helping people find non-adversarial resolutions to conflict. She mediates a wide range of cases including divorce, family conflicts, and organizational and civil disputes.
Cara is dedicated to helping her clients avoid the challenges and acrimony that frequently accompany adversarial proceedings. She does this by enabling her clients to come to realistic and informed agreements that work for them and their families. Cara believes that separation and divorce are family matters with a legal element, not a lawsuit that happens to be about a family.
To understand how these goals are accomplished in a fair and reasonable manner – and gain perspectives on alternative ways to view mediation and settlement we discuss:
- What does neutrality really mean?
- What are the process choices that people have when contemplating divorce?
- How do we as a society view divorce?
- What is a successful divorce?
- What is the role the law will play in your divorce? Is the law relevant, determinative or something in between?
This interview will surely help you understand the many aspects of mediation.
For the new generation of empty-nesters, divorce is becoming more common. Moreover, among people ages 50 and older, the divorce rate has doubled over the past 20 years. It used to be that as people got aged, the chances of divorce declined – but this is no longer the case. Given that the aging population is living longer and healthier, retiring post divorce is an issue for the grey divorce segment.
On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest is Eva Sachs, a Certified Divorce Financial Analyst and founder of Women in Divorce Financial http://www.WomenInDivorce.ca discusses the many concerns, considerations and consequences of financial planning post divorce for the older divorcee.
What do you need to think about, is a question many ponder. We answer that question and explore more:
- Creative solutions for a financially prudent separation agreement
- Adjusting to lifestyle differences post divorce
- Managing debt with less
- Medical/health benefits
- Retirement plans for the divorced
- The home as a burden or asset
Find out how to protect yourself and develop a list of questions, as you work through your finances for a financially secure retirement.
One of the most important concerns parents have post divorce is how their time is to be shared between their children. Is there such a thing about the right parenting plan or how parenting time is shared? In this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest Dr. Phil Stahl has some very insightful answers and thoughts on parenting during divorce.
Dr. Stahl is one of the North America’s foremost parenting experts; a practitioner, author, and teacher, specializing in high conflict families of divorce. He has served on numerous committees and task forces designed to improve the quality of work in his field. He teaches judges, attorneys, psychologists and other mental health professionals about issues affecting families and children. His expertise is accepted in courts across the country.
If you are a parent going through a divorce, you will want to learn more about custody evaluations and some of the issues affecting families and children. This show is insightful for grandparents and step-parents…..or anyone who wants a better understanding of the parenting plan and putting the children’s best interests first.
- Communication blunders, and apologizing to our children for our mistakes
- Wise advice from Dr. Stahl’s book – Parenting After Divorce
- What makes a good parenting plan
- Parenting plan ideas
- Parenting through conflict
- How to share your child – your child is not a percentage
For more on Dr. Stahl, visit: http://www.parentingafterdivorce.com/index.html