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Heartwarming, dream come true, and a family reunion. These are but a few words that ring true, and bring tears of sadness and happiness. Family law attorney Ron Supancic shares his touching and personal story of his parents divorce and subsequent remarriage almost 30 years later; and the profound impact it has had on his life. This is a first for Ron, as he has never publicly shared his family story, and we were honored and privileged to have heard it first – and be able to share it with our special listeners.
This episode of The Smart Divorce is not to be missed. It’s a true Hollywood story with an ending that many children of divorce can only dream of, a parent’s reunion after many years of divorce. There are so many life lessons that Ron teaches us; how he has become a wounded healer, uses the talking stick, what it means to develop your mission statement for divorce. There is much to learn – tune in to hear this powerful story of encouragement and hope.
A few highlights from Ron’s story ………
• Parent’s divorced when he was only 9 years old, a time when divorce was a rare event.
• Although abandoned by his biological father, they reunited 10 years later when Ron enlisted and served as a Lieutenant Commander in the U.S. Navy’s Judge Advocate General’s Corp.
• Ron’s mother’s question…..and how the answer reunited the family.
• How determination and perseverance shaped Ron’s career as family law attorney helping clients see their divorce as a healing opportunity for transformation.
Ron Supancic has been voted one of L.A.’s Super Lawyers by a jury of his peers in Los Angeles Magazine every year since 2006. At a special ceremony held last September, Ron was honored by the California State Bar for 30 years of service as a Certified Family Law Specialist. Ron is a frequent guest on radio and television, where he advocates Collaborative Divorce and Mediation, as well as other innovative approaches to resolve family conflict. Author of three books, When All Else Fails: The Real Cost of Ending a Marriage, Win-Win Custody Solutions, and California Family Law: A Layman’s Guide, Ron offers his clients the newest choices in family law. His commitment is to advocate for his client’s rights in a climate of integrity, dignity and respect. To contact Ron, visit his website at www.thelawcollaborative.com
Our guest, Dr. Isolina Ricci, Ph.D., is the author of the enduring classic for parents Mom’s House, Dad’s House, Mom’s House, Dad’s House for KIDS, and the newly released The CoParenting Toolkit. She is an internationally renowned licensed family therapist, educator, and mediator whose work has inspired and supported two generations of parents. Many of her pioneering concepts such as “Parenting Plans,” the “business-like” approach for managing conflict and communications, better words to replace legal terms like “custody” and “visitation,” have all become accepted standards.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss how to co-parent without conflict, do what’s in your children’s best interest and more.
- The 3 lane Co-Parenting Highway
- How parents can build on their strengths
- “The Miserable Middle”
- Co-Parenting guidelines
- Flexible Co-Parenting
- What kids want their parents to know
- And much more!
The Co-Parenting toolkit is available at: www.momshousedadshouse.com Mom’s House, Dad’s House books are available through amazon.com.
For more information check out Dr Ricci’s website CoParentingToday.com, there are free articles. For example, “Divorce from the Kids Point of View”, “What your words really say” or “Parenting Plans: your most important document”.
Our guest, Matthew Sullivan, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, who specializes in forensic child and family psychology. He has been in private practice for 20 years, specializing in Forensic Family psychology.
Dr. Sullivan is a pioneer in the field of Parenting Coordination, , and has led the development of Parenting Coordination across the U.S. He is one of the most experienced Parent Coordinators (called Special Master in California) in the country. In 2012, he received the Joseph Drown award from the California Association of Family and Conciliation Courts for “outstanding services to children” in the state. He has written articles, presented and done training at numerous national and international venues on topics such as high-conflict divorce, Parent Coordination, Forensic Consultation Court-involved therapy and Child Alienation.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we explore the benefits of a Parenting Coordinator, and the importance of this professional while helping co-parents reduce conflict. We also discuss the difference between Parenting Alienation and an estranged relationship with children – and how to repair and rebuild your relationship with your children.
We explore so many issues and ideas related to co-parenting and your children’s best interest. Topics include:
• What is a parenting coordinator
• How you might benefit from using a parenting coordinator
• What’s the difference between a parenting coordinator vs. mediation vs. co-parent counseling
• What is the difference between parent alienation and estrangement
• Tips for parents to improve the relationship with their children
• How Dr. Sullivan helps families come together with the reunification program – Overcoming Barriers
• How the Forging Families program can help the whole family.
To contact Dr. Sullivan, please visit his website at http://www.californiaparentingcoordinator.com
For more information about Overcoming Barriers High-Conflict Divorce Camp visit http://overcomingbarriers.org
Don’t miss out on this important conversation, and find out how you can minimize conflict, and improve or save your important relationship with your children.
No matter your religion, have you considered how your religious beliefs impact your civil divorce? Whether you are Jewish, Muslim, or Christian, you might wonder how a “Get” or “Mahr” might be reflected in your separation agreement. We explore the impact of a religious divorce on a civil divorce. What does this mean for individuals who have a strong faith base in their religion and want to follow those beliefs into their divorce. After all, when they got married, they were able to incorporate the customs and traditions into their marriage, but what does this mean for divorce.
Our guest, Fareen Jamal is a lawyer at Bales Beall LLP, practicing in the areas of Matrimonial, Estate and Civil Litigation. And has recently been nominated for the Ontario Bar Association’s Heather McArthur Young Lawyer’s Award. Fareen is an opinion leader on religious and cultural issues and divorce. The issues and complexities are far reaching. With North American increasing diversity, family legal services that have historically been designed to cater to middle-class North-American Caucasian families with a European heritage, must be refined and re-evaluated to better meet the needs of a changing population. Individuals may have very different notions of “family” in this diverse and pluralistic society, which impacts the family law system and its capacity to address family disputes.
Fareen helps us understand how your religious beliefs and customs may be a part of the Separation Agreement.
- What is a “Get”, “Agunah” and “Mamzer “?
- The meaning of a “Mahr”, “Maher”, “Mohr”, “Mehr”, and “Kafala”
- The different schools of thought in Islam and their impact on divorce
- What is the structure of the mahr – how is it enforced?
- What if the agreement was struck in one country, and the divorce begun in another country?
The issues are controversial and complex. This is further complicated in no-fault divorce jurisdictions. Courts may enforce mahr agreements irrespective of who initiated the divorce, or why, as the mahr agreements typically contain no reference to the different forms of divorce. Or, what happens when the husband doesn’t want to give his wife a get?
It’s been said that Immature love is loving someone for what they do right; mature love is loving someone is spite of what they do wrong. In this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, Dr. Mark Goulston joins us to discuss The Last Chance Marriage Fix.
Dr. Goulston offers an approach to therapy that is accessible and doesn’t require deep thinking or deep insights to be effective. Mark Goulston, Ph.D. is one of America’s top psychiatrists, and specializes in helping people to get through to anybody, anywhere, anytime. He’s the best selling author of six books including the #1 international best seller, “Just Listen” Discover the Secret to Getting Through to Absolutely Anyone. He’s often appears on TV and in print. Appearances include: Oprah, CNN, The Today Show, The New York Times, Wall Street Journal, Forbes, Fortune and many other media outlets.Dr. Goulston discusses his extraordinary program on fixing your marriage and rebuilding your relationship.
There is so much to learn, and if you follow Dr. Goulston’s advice, before you know it, you will be holding hands, and your friends will ask “ what happened to you?” As partners learn the skills to effectively deal with disagreements, disappointments and upsets and make things better without making them worse, each develops emotional toughness, self-respect and self-esteem. Add to that effective conflict-resolution skills and tools derived from mindfulness and positive psychology, and any motivated couple can move to a shared future that more than makes up for any emotional baggage they may still have from their genes and upbringing.
Our guest, Nicolle Kopping-Pavars explores the very sensitive topic of fertility and divorce on The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck. This issues are not as complicated as one might think, as embryos have no rights. Eggs and sperm are defined as property. Nicolle is the founder of NKP-Law, a Family Law practice dedicated to helping families in transition. With a focus on Collaborative Family Law, Family Mediation and Third Party Reproduction (Surrogacy, Egg Donation and Sperm Donation), NKP Law operates with respect, compassion, integrity and education as our core foundation. We encourage personal growth and adopt a more holistic approach to the practice of family law.
This topic is not often discussed; we explore the issues to provide you with the information that is critical to your decision-making.
- What are an embryo’s rights – if any?
- An embryo donation agreement
- Who retains ownership of the embryo, egg or sperm?
- Why has fertility become an issue in family law and separation
- Is there a difference in issues when dealing with a separation based on infertility
- What is the impact of the “emotional” divorce that lawyers should be cognizant of when dealing with fertility?
- Fertility and family law moving forward: when there are children of donor off spring or embryo donation.
Child support payments can be a source of concern, conflict, frustration, and confusion for many. On this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, our guest is lawyer Mike Marra and we discuss child support. Mike helps us to understand what parents really need to think about where child support is concerned. Mr. Marra is a skilled lawyer family law lawyer with expertise in the areas of spousal support, complex financial situations, fraudulent spouses, trust claims, unfair agreements, protection of children’s rights, estate litigation, high conflict custody and access situations and mediation methods. He also worked for many years as legal counsel for the Family Responsibility Office, which enforce child and domestic support orders and collects support payments for families in Ontario, Canada.
Mr. Marra debunks the myths and misperceptions of child support. And he shares with us information on his solution for managing child expenses in a non invasive way, eliminating conflict, while obtaining full financial disclosure in a non threatening, cost effective manner through a new support tool – Support Information Exchange, available across North America.
To understand how these goals are met in reasonable manner we explore:
- Protecting yourself from retroactive child support claims
- Ensure that your right to obtain a percentage share of children’s special expenses is not lost
- How to save legal fees and court costs on child support
- And many other suggestions about the difficult conversation people rarely want to have about child support
To find out more information visit Support Information eXchange
People who need family lawyers are different from people who need other types of lawyers. If you are going through a separation or divorce, or if you need help with child custody or access, child or spousal support, or a children’s aid society issue, your case is about your life.
The lawyer you choose, and how the separation agreement is settled will also determine how amicable or adversarial the divorce process is, once again impacting your life. In this episode of The Smart Divorce with Deborah Moskovitch, family law lawyer, John Schuman helps us understand the differences between all of the Alternative Dispute Resolutions to consider when coming to a separation agreement. We discuss the importance of staying out of court, but also when it might the only option. John has litigated before every level of court in Ontario, so readily understands the outcomes – not only from a decision perspective, but the impact on emotions as well.
For more on John Schuman, visit: http://www.devrylaw.ca/ and read Nobody Asks Where I Want to Live at: http://www.devrylaw.ca/wp-content/uploads/2011/11/ConsenttoTreatmentandParenting.pdf.
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What if you could change the negative thoughts and behaviors that have been detrimental to healthy relationships in the past? Have you ever had feelings of being blamed, unappreciated, rejected or even un-loved in a past or current relationship? Imagine what would happen if you were able to “rewire” your brain and eliminate your negative feelings and replace them with positive feelings that make you feel accepted, appreciated valued, loved and successful.
On this episode of The Smart Divorce, recorded at The Family Support Expo in Toronto, co-founder of NEXT Integrative Mind Sciences, David Folk joins us to discuss the potential to changing our brain and transform relationships. (Neuroplasticity)
David’s NEXT program guides students through a series of exercises that teach you to utilize your brain’s own natural plasticity by creating new and lasting patterns of behavior. Armed with new abilities for emotional behavioral regulation, graduates of the couples and families program consistently report radical improvements to their relationships compared to when they began the program.
Learn how developments in neuroscience can benefit your life in this exciting program. For more information on David Folk and the NEXT program, visit: www.The NextProgram.com.
One of the biggest fears post-divorce are finances. Trusting yourself to make financial choices is a big issue, especially when it comes to your divorce settlement. Our guest, Dr. Deborah Nixon, helps us to understand what we need to do. Dr. Nixon is an entrepreneur, professor, executive, consultant, and community volunteer; she has identified a common need in today’s cautious working environment for trusting professional relationships. Economic instability has undercut our readiness to trust one another – and this is especially hard in divorce. We’re gong to relate this all to your post-divorce life.
Dr. Nixon helps us understand the importance of building and maintaining trust in ourselves when making financial decisions – especially when it’s post-divorce, and the worry is “what about my future?” She has developed the MyMoneyMindset and Trust Intelligence Program and shares her work, to help us with financial decision-making. We discuss the intangibles of trust, reputation and integrity to make them tangible and practical.
To understand how these goals are met in reasonable manner we explore:
- Defining Moments as a pivot point for deeper understanding of financial decision-making
- How assessments, coaching and consulting have helped clients learn to take charge of their money while helping professionals learn what their clients need from them.
- Helping to develop Financial Wellness
- The 10 Minute Survey
- The importance of feeling strong so that you can manage your money
My Money Mindset will help you make better and more informed decisions about your money. Tackle those hard issues. A raise, the family budget, a financial plan, your relationship with your financial professional. Don’t you owe it to yourself! Isn’t your peace of mind worth it? This interview will surely help you understand what trust means, trust breaches and trust repair. Fascinating stuff.
To find out more, contact Dr. Nixon at Deborah@mymoneymindset.com, or call 416-986-7049