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Domestic violence, also known as domestic abuse, spousal abuse,battering, family violence, and intimate partner violence (IPV), is a pattern of behavior which involves the abuse by one partner against another in an intimate relationship such as marriage, cohabitation, dating or within the family. There doesn’t need to be physical scars –there is abuse that results in emotional scars too. There is sexual abuse; emotional abuse; controlling or domineering; intimidation; stalking; passive/covert abuse (e.g., neglect); and economic deprivation.
No matter what culture, religion, color, income bracket, profession there is no typical profile of an abuser or an abused.
Our guest, Penny Krowitz, is the executive Director of Act To End Violence Against Women. She talks with Deborah Moskovitch and Steve Peck about domestic violence and what you can do to protect yourself and your loved ones. Over the years, Penny has played a leadership role in identifying the strategic issues facing Jewish women and their families and developing and implementing programs and projects to strengthen their lives. Developing culturally sensitive shelters for women in select cities in Canada. She has been the driving force for the newest Act To End Violence Against Women project to provide libraries in shelters across Canada for children and their moms.
You don’t need to be Jewish or Canadian to benefit from the important messages, lessons learned, tips and strategies that Penny shares. This is an important show, and offers valuable help.
- What constitutes violence against women?
- Women today are generally very educated and aware – how would they become victims of abuse?
- What are some of the myths and stereotypes about VAW?
- Why do women stay in abusive relationships?
- What are some of the causes of VAW?
- What are some of your organization’s programs to end violence against women?
- What is the vision of Violence Against Women?
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Violence Against Women – Information and Help – http://www.jwicanada.com/vaw-definition.php
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Rabbi Brener, LCSW is Director of Spiritual Development at The Academy for Jewish Religion, California. She serves Congregation Makom Ohr Shalom as Rabbi and is a Bereavement Chaplain at Skirball Hospice. She is the author of Mourning & Mitzvah: Walking the Mourner’s Path (Jewish Lights, 1993 & 2001) as well as many other publications and assists institutions in creating caring communities. As a Psychotherapist and Spiritual Director, specializing in grief and healing, she works with people throughout North America.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce, Rabbi Brener shares her insights and wisdom on mourning the loss of marriage or significant relationship, finding ways to creatively move on, and the dance that you might learn.
- Grieving divorce and seeking closure
- Walking the mourner’s path
- Dealing with ambiguous losses
- How rituals make the intangible tangible
- Creative ways to obtain closure and moving on from divorce
- How Earth, Wind, Fire and Water can help you find inner peace
To contact Rabbi Brener, please email her at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Rabbi Brener’s highly acclaimed book Mourning & Mitzvah: Walking the Mourner’s Path can be purchased through amazon.com at http://www.amazon.com/Mourning-Mitzvah-Journal-Walking-Mourners/dp/1580231136
Listen in to find out how to find closure, start anew, and develop fresh rituals for an enriching future.
Have you heard about the new organization, Leading Women for Shared Parenting or LW4SP? This is a group of prominent women who recognize that absent issues of abuse, neglect or abandonment, government policy and laws must be structured in such a way as to maximize the opportunity of all parents to contribute to the social, emotional, intellectual, physical, moral and spiritual development of their children.
According to Pew Research on the Huffington Post, there is yet another data point to add to the changing portrait of American parents: the number of single fathers has risen ninefold since demographers began measuring it more than 50 years ago.
Back in 1960 there were fewer than 300,000 households headed by single dads, according to an analysis of Census Bureau data released by the Pew Research Center. By 2011 that had grown to more than 2.6 million. That’s more than twice the rate of growth of single mother-led households, which quadrupled in the same period, to 8.6 million from 1.9 million.
Our guest, one of the exceptional Leading Women, Barbara Kay, a prominent Canadian journalist, shares with us her perspective on shared parenting. “Without a presumption of equal shared parenting, the system will continue to fail children and non-custodial parents. Women are better placed to make this argument than men.”
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss many issues such as:
- What does LW4SP stand for, and what they want you to know
- The difference between shared parenting and joint custody
- What the current research shows about Equally Shared Parenting
- Considerations when developing your parenting plan
- Lots of great information about LW4SP
For more information and to find out more about Leading Women for Shared Parenting, visit http://lw4sp.org
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Did you know that the divorce rate for remarriages with children is at a whopping 62-70%? Did you know that most stepfamilies take years (four to six) before family members even begin to feel comfortable with one another, let alone love one another? Did you know that the research shows that only approximately 20% of adult stepchildren report positive feelings about their stepmothers, despite the years of effort and kindness so many of them have shown their stepchildren? As you may imagine, there are many conversations that couples need to have before combining their families.
Our guest, Mary Kelly provides us with a framework for considerations when having the important conversations when merging families. She provides the do’s and don’ts for making this new family more likely to work. Ms. Kelly is a therapist who has been working with and writing about stepcouples, stepfamilies, step kids, stepmoms and stepdads for over a decade. The number one declaration that stepcouples, and especially stepmothers tell her is: “We/I had no idea it would be this hard!”
Why is it so hard? In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss what many in remarriage or re-partnership with children find themselves saying:
- “Am I really supposed to love his/her children?”
- “What does being a step-parent mean?”
- “Do I really parent a child who isn’t mine?”
- “Just because I don’t have kids, doesn’t mean I don’t have a valid opinion.”
- ….and much more
And, then, based on these conversations provide solutions and strategies to maintain a healthy, loving relationship for the couple.
For more information and to contact Mary T. Kelly visit her website atwww.marriedwithbaggage.com or email: email@example.com
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Now more than ever it’s time to consider a Prenuptial Agreement if you’re getting married, or a Cohabitation Agreement if you’re living together. The prenup seems so utterly unromantic — or just plain wrong — but it’s also become so right for so many these days: those keenly aware that a marriage may end up in a legal separation, divorce or death. Most prenups tackle financial issues such as real estate, division of bank accounts and potential spousal support in the case of divorce or separation. It’s not just for the rich and famous, but for anyone that wants to protect assets. Mapping out a pre-nuptial agreementis never particularly romantic. But it can be especially tricky when children from previous relationships are involved. It’s also a good time to explore your financial values and ideals with your partner so that you better understand each others expectations.
Our guest, lawyer Ed Winer, is one of the top ten divorce lawyers in the United States. Mr. Winer has practiced family law for four decades and is expert in drafting, negotiating and litigating antenuptial and postnuptial agreements, addressing business valuations, complex property divisions and other business-related issues.
Mr. Winer explains the importance of the prenup and cohab agreements, and outlines the significant financial questions couples should discuss – and individuals consider – before making a commitment. Mr. Winer refers to the prenup as the engagement ring of the twenty first century. Listen in to find out why…..we discuss:
- Why the prenup, cohab and postnup agreements are for everyone
- What these financial Agreements are
- Does it mean that you don’t trust your partner?
- What’s in it for the person that has less financially?
- Do these financial Agreements destroy or build a loving relationship?
- What about the matrimonial home?
- And much more……
For more information or to contact Ed Winer email firstname.lastname@example.org
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Our guest, Dr. Donald Gordon, is a Co-Founder and Executive Director of the Center for Divorce Education. The Center for Divorce Education is a non-profit organization dedicated to educating the public, and family justice professionals on the effects of divorce and parenting plans on the emotional and social development of children.
Dr. Gordon is a 40+ year clinical psychologist and researcher with an area of expertise targeting the reduction and prevention of juvenile delinquency. During his 40 years of working with families, Dr. Gordon has studied the effects that different strategies have on reducing conflict within a family (both with parents and children).
In this episode of The Smart Divorce, Dr. Gordon shares his insights and wisdom on developing a healthy, happy relationship with your children and co-parent. He explains how to communicate effectively, minimize stress, reduce conflict, and take your children out of the middle of the crossfire.
We explore the cost effective education programs for parent and children that minimize the harmful effects of divorce. Learn how the cost effective skills based online program by The Center for Divorce Education can help you. We also explore these five typical issues of divorce:
1. Money Problems
2. Children Carrying Messages between Parents
3. Long Distance Parenting
4. Quizzing Children about the Other Parent
5. Putting Down the Other Parent
Learn skills that will immediately change the way you interact
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Don’t miss out on learning about these wonderful, cost effective divorce education programs.
There is a kaleidoscope of emotion experienced in divorce, and sometimes it makes good people do bad things, but can also bring out the worst in people especially those with mental wellness issues. What happens when you are faced with the adversity from the other side, crazy making behavior, deception, lies, and so on?
Our guest is Steven Benmor, a Family Law lawyer who only handles matrimonial cases. He takes us through the critical steps and thinking behind dealing with the difficult issues and personalities. Steven is a Certified Specialist in Family Law by the Law Society of Upper Canada, Adjunct Professor at Osgoode Hall Law School, Co-chair of the Board of Access For Parents and Children in Ontario, Executive Member of the Family Law Section of the Ontario Bar Association, Member of the Board of the Ontario Chapter of the Association of Family and Conciliation Courts, Member of the Board of the Ontario Network for the Prevention of Elder Abuse, Member of The Advocates Society, Member of the Toronto Lawyers Association and Member of the Family Lawyers Association. Steven is a recognized lawyer, educator, speaker and writer – and is well versed in dealing with many of the difficult divorce dilemmas that only the most seasoned of lawyers can handle so adeptly.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss personality disorder, the relationship breakdown business, and stepchildren support.
- Dealing with oppositional, paranoid and aggressive behavior from the other side –your soon to be former partner and their legal counsel
- Why you’re better off in the legal system
- Getting out of “emotional jail”
- Why it’s important to focus on the truth, not on the lie
- What the system is – an adversarial system, and not an inquisition system
- Legal responsibilities to the step children
- Overcoming your ex
- And much more!
For more information and to contact Steven Benmor visit his website at www.benmor.com or email email@example.com
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Heartwarming, dream come true, and a family reunion. These are but a few words that ring true, and bring tears of sadness and happiness. Family law attorney Ron Supancic shares his touching and personal story of his parents divorce and subsequent remarriage almost 30 years later; and the profound impact it has had on his life. This is a first for Ron, as he has never publicly shared his family story, and we were honored and privileged to have heard it first – and be able to share it with our special listeners.
This episode of The Smart Divorce is not to be missed. It’s a true Hollywood story with an ending that many children of divorce can only dream of, a parent’s reunion after many years of divorce. There are so many life lessons that Ron teaches us; how he has become a wounded healer, uses the talking stick, what it means to develop your mission statement for divorce. There is much to learn – tune in to hear this powerful story of encouragement and hope.
A few highlights from Ron’s story ………
• Parent’s divorced when he was only 9 years old, a time when divorce was a rare event.
• Although abandoned by his biological father, they reunited 10 years later when Ron enlisted and served as a Lieutenant Commander in the U.S. Navy’s Judge Advocate General’s Corp.
• Ron’s mother’s question…..and how the answer reunited the family.
• How determination and perseverance shaped Ron’s career as family law attorney helping clients see their divorce as a healing opportunity for transformation.
Ron Supancic has been voted one of L.A.’s Super Lawyers by a jury of his peers in Los Angeles Magazine every year since 2006. At a special ceremony held last September, Ron was honored by the California State Bar for 30 years of service as a Certified Family Law Specialist. Ron is a frequent guest on radio and television, where he advocates Collaborative Divorce and Mediation, as well as other innovative approaches to resolve family conflict. Author of three books, When All Else Fails: The Real Cost of Ending a Marriage, Win-Win Custody Solutions, and California Family Law: A Layman’s Guide, Ron offers his clients the newest choices in family law. His commitment is to advocate for his client’s rights in a climate of integrity, dignity and respect. To contact Ron, visit his website at www.thelawcollaborative.com
Our guest, Dr. Isolina Ricci, Ph.D., is the author of the enduring classic for parents Mom’s House, Dad’s House, Mom’s House, Dad’s House for KIDS, and the newly released The CoParenting Toolkit. She is an internationally renowned licensed family therapist, educator, and mediator whose work has inspired and supported two generations of parents. Many of her pioneering concepts such as “Parenting Plans,” the “business-like” approach for managing conflict and communications, better words to replace legal terms like “custody” and “visitation,” have all become accepted standards.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we discuss how to co-parent without conflict, do what’s in your children’s best interest and more.
- The 3 lane Co-Parenting Highway
- How parents can build on their strengths
- “The Miserable Middle”
- Co-Parenting guidelines
- Flexible Co-Parenting
- What kids want their parents to know
- And much more!
The Co-Parenting toolkit is available at: www.momshousedadshouse.com Mom’s House, Dad’s House books are available through amazon.com.
For more information check out Dr Ricci’s website CoParentingToday.com, there are free articles. For example, “Divorce from the Kids Point of View”, “What your words really say” or “Parenting Plans: your most important document”.
Our guest, Matthew Sullivan, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, who specializes in forensic child and family psychology. He has been in private practice for 20 years, specializing in Forensic Family psychology.
Dr. Sullivan is a pioneer in the field of Parenting Coordination, , and has led the development of Parenting Coordination across the U.S. He is one of the most experienced Parent Coordinators (called Special Master in California) in the country. In 2012, he received the Joseph Drown award from the California Association of Family and Conciliation Courts for “outstanding services to children” in the state. He has written articles, presented and done training at numerous national and international venues on topics such as high-conflict divorce, Parent Coordination, Forensic Consultation Court-involved therapy and Child Alienation.
In this episode of The Smart Divorce we explore the benefits of a Parenting Coordinator, and the importance of this professional while helping co-parents reduce conflict. We also discuss the difference between Parenting Alienation and an estranged relationship with children – and how to repair and rebuild your relationship with your children.
We explore so many issues and ideas related to co-parenting and your children’s best interest. Topics include:
• What is a parenting coordinator
• How you might benefit from using a parenting coordinator
• What’s the difference between a parenting coordinator vs. mediation vs. co-parent counseling
• What is the difference between parent alienation and estrangement
• Tips for parents to improve the relationship with their children
• How Dr. Sullivan helps families come together with the reunification program – Overcoming Barriers
• How the Forging Families program can help the whole family.
To contact Dr. Sullivan, please visit his website at http://www.californiaparentingcoordinator.com
For more information about Overcoming Barriers High-Conflict Divorce Camp visit http://overcomingbarriers.org
Don’t miss out on this important conversation, and find out how you can minimize conflict, and improve or save your important relationship with your children.